tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3882204572446716934.post3393511145483551004..comments2023-12-22T00:35:52.880-08:00Comments on How to be Awesome, for Free: How to Break Up With Someone You Just Can't Get Rid OfOsasMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01536246190850827845noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3882204572446716934.post-10167679615538324092011-02-18T21:33:18.421-08:002011-02-18T21:33:18.421-08:00Hey Liz, sorry I didn't see this until now. I...Hey Liz, sorry I didn't see this until now. I'm hoping that, since it has been a month, he is already out of your house. If not, you need to put your foot down and tell him to leave. You can no longer be the one who takes care of him. In your case, I would suggest giving him a day by which he must be out of your house. If he doesn't get his stuff out by then, you put it outside and change the lock. Maybe you can be nice and give his stuff to his friend or family member, although you would be doing that person a disservice. If he is a genuine threat (his anger may be violent), I would suggest a restraining order and moving to a new location that he is unaware of.OsasMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01536246190850827845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3882204572446716934.post-67391523803854955342011-01-18T07:53:37.234-08:002011-01-18T07:53:37.234-08:00Wow,this is just what I needed. I've done the...Wow,this is just what I needed. I've done the doormat thing by giving in the last time and letting him move back in because he "got his sh** straight". <br />I'm as miserable now as I was when I kicked him out last summer.<br />My situation is just a tiny bit different than some. He live with me and has no job. I know, I know, sad.<br />He's also sick, like a combo of mental and physical, but he doesn't take care of himself and is so negative that I can't take it anymore. I have to get free of him before I loose my mind totally. <br />It seems impossible to get him out again. It took over a month last time. He gets so mad, and even if I do this over the phone, he's still there when I get home.<br />Any further advice?<br />LizLizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05666657695832428973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3882204572446716934.post-57416451562128338622010-07-10T19:16:06.488-07:002010-07-10T19:16:06.488-07:00I'm not Dear Abby, but it sounds like you'...I'm not Dear Abby, but it sounds like you're approaching it with the wrong mentality. If you have someone who is mistreating you and you can't seem to get rid of them, then trying to be friends with that person is part of the problem, isn't it? I say, delete everything and leave it up to fate. Your focus should be on getting away from that person for now. If there's any hope of ever having any kind of healthy relationship one day, it won't come from trying to make a friendship now.OsasMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01536246190850827845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3882204572446716934.post-16507564257753511022010-07-10T18:40:27.830-07:002010-07-10T18:40:27.830-07:00What should we do if we want to eventually be frie...What should we do if we want to eventually be friends with this person that we need to get rid of? We can't delete all contact information, because then how will we get in touch with them later? But if we keep it, then we will be tempted to use it unwisely!Your Personal Green Experthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762248805007816879noreply@blogger.com